It’s that time of year again. When we all enslave ourselves and each other to the pain in the ass known as the New Year’s Resolution. Every year a lot of us commit to this tradition in the same way most of us celebrate the most common traditions.
According to Statistic Brain Research Institute, 41% of us usually make a new year’s resolution and 17% make a resolution sometimes. Of all the people who make resolutions, 48.4% have said that they succeed “infrequently,” 42.4% feel they “never succeed” and specifically fail in achieving their resolution, and only 9.2% of people feel they are successful in achieving their resolution.
The Definition of Insanity
So let’s keep at it then, yes?
No. We are obviously going about this goal-setting thing all wrong. Am I wrong about this? We’re 5 days into 2018 right now. How’s your resolution going? I don’t make resolutions because I am a rebel and don’t like to do what everyone else does, or more specifically, what people expect me to do. Yes, I realize this is stupid. And I resolve not to care what anyone thinks about that… whoops, I already didn’t care.
Let me get to the point. A whopping 72.6% of you will maintain your resolution through the first week of the year, and by six months, 44.8% of you will still be going strong. But again, in the end, 42.4% will admit to failing. So what’s going wrong?
With this high rate of failure and low rate of success, shouldn’t we be resolving to stop resolving and find a better way to get better, do better, be better?
The definition of insanity, by the way, is something utterly foolish or unreasonable, among other things. Oh, did you think I was going to say that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results? Well, that’s something to consider anyway…
New Year, New YOU…?
Every year people reinvent themselves in their minds and call it a new year’s resolution. Let’s get those changes on paper and tell our friends, family, and co-workers! What’s the major folly in this genuine good intention? Is it possible that the reason most people fail is because most people fail? Wait… what?
That’s right. People usually do what everyone else is doing. Doesn’t it stand to reason that if everyone around you gives up on their new year’s resolution, that not only will you also give up, you will be ok with giving up because everyone else did?
Think about that.
The Evolution of The Resolution
If we are all pretty much doomed to fail to achieve our resolutions, but we still need to get better, do better, be better, what’s the very best way to actually do it?
Stop Doing What Everyone Else Does
Yes, it really is that simple. Look at your life and decide what you want. Write it down. And then write down the steps to getting there. And then take action.
I don’t care what it is, or when it is. DO IT.
Realize Action Is Necessary To Achieve Any Goal
The one reason it’s so easy to make a resolution and never achieve it is because people don’t consider what it takes to get there. You won’t lose weight or quit smoking or quit your job and become an entrepreneur by accident. There is no helicopter to get you from the bottom of that mountain to the top; you have to climb.
If I’m being honest, the real reason people fail at their resolutions is because nobody has discipline. Discipline is critical to success at literally anything. Pick your goal. Weight loss, quitting smoking, saving money, paying off your house, starting a business, finishing your basement, writing that epic novel, etc., etc., etc. It does not matter what it is. It is something that will require you to force yourself, at some point, whether in the beginning, middle or end, to do something. It’s highly unlikely that you will be gung-ho about every step it takes to achieve your goal, which is why so many people fail. They simply cannot make themselves do what needs to be done.
It’s time to get used to the idea of doing all the things you don’t feel like doing. Stop sabotaging yourself. Get out of your way!
Do It Every Day
Goals should be something you are working to achieve every single day of your life, not just once per year for a week or 3 months.
Stop using the excuse that you will put it in your new year’s resolution because … The New Year’s Resolution is where goals go to die!
In the words of Andy Dufresne, “Get busy living, or get busy dying.”